6 Reasons Why the Narcissist Hates You
You might think that it’s absolutely insane for someone who you either once were in a relationship with, or maybe it was family, or maybe it’s one of your close friends, could possibly hate you, not dislike, flat-out hate you, keep reading.
In this article we are going to tear apart how the narcissist hates you with 6 reasons…and this list may grow, but we are going to get in the head of the narcissist and divulge what they are thinking and why they think it, which is the ugly truth which they will never admit to, but by their actions, it oozes out from their being.
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They need you for so many things
The narcissist hates you because they need you. What do they need you for? Well to start off, they are highly insecure individuals, and they need to you to provide a sense of value to them. There are a lot of things they need you for, but for starters, they need you for:
- attention and affection
- narcissistic supply
- to fill them up when they are feeling low, emotional regulation
- they need someone to blame, to accuse, so they don’t have to carry the weight of it
- they need someone to put down so they feel elevated
- they need someone around them that has empathy, and certain skills to which they want to use to their advantage
- they need someone who is a bit naive to manipulation
- they need someone who has a history of going along with the flow, who does not contest, but naturally will follow along and is not confrontational
- someone who will not figure out their mind games so they can keep playing them perfecting their skills, switching it up a bit at each opportunity
- they need you to go along, for a long time, even be stuck in a relationship, lose your autonomy so you have no choice and have to stay so you can support them in various forms for a long long time.
They are Jealous and Envious of You
While they may never admit to it, they have raging jealousy and envy toward you. Why? Because you are everything they are not, without effort. You genuinely care about other people, have a desire to offer assistance when you can to others, and have a natural ability to empathize.
Their mind thinks completely differently. They are all about themselves, and how they can get more. They run on a deficit and hate that you are self-sustaining.
This is why they tear you down, because they cannot stand that you have the ability to stand on your own, without the need for validation from others. Your strength and mental capacity was strong before you met them, and this was one thing that drew you to them.
And this is why your intuition and gut is attacked subtly with force by the narcissist. Inch by inch, moment by moment, and with intent, they want to start to destroy your intuition from the inside. They want you intuition to loose it’s strength and start to deteriorate.
They want you go from trusting in yourself and your own life’s wisdom to relying on their perception on how you should think, yes this is brainwashing.
They want you to slowly lose yourself as you allow them to start to control your mind as they tell you what you should think.
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They Can't Stand Your Authenticity
Your authenticity is like a thorn in their side. They recoiled at the sight of your genuine nature, as it stripped away the layers of their deceit. Your truthfulness was a stark contrast to their web of lies, leaving them feeling exposed and vulnerable.
In their desperation to preserve their fake facade, they lashed out with a hatred borne from the fear of being unmasked. They hate you because you are everything they are not.
They are repelled that you genuinely care for others, that you can see and understand perspectives of others. As they learn more of who you are, their hatred grows, and with that comes their fury and rage.
You are a Challenge to Dismantle
Because you come from such emotional and intuitive strength, the narcissist sees you as a challenge to dismantle. They win if they can tear you down emotionally, and cause havoc in your life.
They want your independent nature, independent thought, and ability to move around without them to be crushed, so you are reliant upon them. It’s devious and there is nothing in it for you. A narcissist is a taker, they will take your energy, you emotional strength, your skills, and creatively turn them around so you support and sustain them.
They want to dim your light and take away from anything that supports you – friends, family, which is why they go down the path to isolate you from what builds you up.
Their Hate and Contempt Grows
If you have a narcissist in your life, they will watch you from afar and up close. They study you to see how real and authentic and how happy you are as a stand alone person.
They observe you because if you have certain skills to which they need, they will try to overtake you so that you will change and morph into the person they want you to be – supporting them.
Their hate and contempt grows, they may start out to like you (questionable) from the start, but when they see your good traits and qualities, even as you are tested by their antics and still come out on top, this is where their envy and jealousy start to grow, flourish, and it turns sour. They see your strength and your resilience, and you are hated because of it.
I understand this article, may not go over well with certain audiences. Some may not believe the mind of a narcissist, who ultimately is out to destroy you so they can be boosted up. There is a complete imbalance of power and it grows with each encounter, and with each manipulative tactic.
Have you been in a relationship with a narcissist? Did you start to see their antics and how they slowly built contempt and hatred for you – and yet you had no idea why because you were doing everything right? Drop a comment and share your experience!
Narcissists hate us because we have an inner light and an authentic sense of self. You can spot the cold rage and envy in their eyes. It’s chilling.